Healthy Relationship Quiz: See Your Strengths in Four Key Areas
24 original statements look at trust and respect, communication and repair, independence and support, and affection and fun, the areas relationship research links to lasting closeness. Get an instant result with concrete practices for each area.
Reviewed by Michael Callans, MSW 
Healthy Relationship Quiz is a free, confidential 24-question self-assessment, educational screener · not a diagnostic test. It takes about 6 minutes, runs entirely in your browser, and gives you a plain-language score across 4 interpretation bands plus an optional in-depth report. It is an educational screening, not a diagnosis.
Four strengths, not a pass-or-fail grade
This quiz isn't looking for red flags; it's looking for what's working. Relationship research consistently points to a handful of specific strengths, trust, communication and repair, independence and support, and affection and fun, so instead of one vague "how healthy is your relationship" score, you get a read on each one, with something concrete to build on.
Original, strength-based items
24 statements written for this test, each describing a specific, positive behavior or feeling in a relationship. A higher score means more of that strength shows up for you.
Four research-linked areas
Trust and respect, communication and repair, independence and support, and affection and fun, shown separately so you can see exactly where your relationship is strongest.
Two practices per result
Every result comes with two concrete things to try, not just a description, drawn from research on repair and connection in lasting relationships.
| Feature | Typical free quiz | Psychology.com |
|---|---|---|
| Strength-based, not deficit-based | Rarely | Yes, every item |
| Breakdown by area | No | Yes, 4 areas |
| Grounded in relationship research | Vague | Gottman + Johnson, cited |
| Concrete practices per result | No | Yes, 2 per band |
| No verdicts on your partner | Often implied | Explicit |
| Clinician-reviewed interpretation | Rarely | Yes, clinician reviewed |
| Answers stay on your device | Often tracked | Scored in your browser; we only receive anonymous completion counts unless you ask for a PDF or report |
How scoring works
Answers are scored 0–96 in total. Your result falls into one of 4 bands:
| Score | Band | What it suggests |
|---|---|---|
| 0–24 | Needs attention | Your answers suggest several areas of this relationship need real attention right now. That's worth taking seriously, ideally with support. |
| 25–48 | Strained | Your answers suggest this relationship has real strengths alongside real strain. Worth naming and working on directly. |
| 49–72 | Solid, with things to work on | Your answers suggest a genuinely solid relationship with a few specific areas worth strengthening. |
| 73–96 | Thriving | Your answers suggest a relationship with real strength across trust, communication, independence, and affection. Worth protecting and continuing to invest in. |
What the Research Actually Says About Healthy Relationships
Decades of relationship research point less to "never fighting" and more to how couples handle the friction that's inevitable in any long-term bond. John Gottman's research describes a "Sound Relationship House," a model built on foundations like building love maps of each other's inner world, turning toward each other's small bids for connection, and managing conflict through repair rather than avoidance (Gottman & Silver, 1999). Repair attempts, the small efforts to de-escalate or reconnect during a disagreement, are one of the strongest predictors of relationship stability in his research, more important than whether a couple disagrees in the first place.
Sue Johnson's work on Emotionally Focused Therapy adds another piece: it frames romantic bonds as attachment relationships, meaning a partner functions as a source of safety and comfort much like a caregiver does for a child. From that view, most conflict is really a protest about disconnection, a fear that "are you there for me?" isn't being answered (Johnson, 2008). This quiz doesn't reproduce either researcher's actual questionnaire. It's built from our own items, informed by what their research and decades of couples work point to as real, learnable strengths.
Independence Is Part of Closeness, Not the Opposite of It
It's tempting to think a healthy relationship means spending all your time together and having no separate life, but research and clinical experience point the other way. Relationships tend to be more stable, not less, when both people maintain friendships, interests, and a sense of self outside the partnership. This isn't a contradiction: it's what lets each person bring something to the relationship instead of asking it to be their entire world, and it means neither partner's identity is at risk if the relationship ever changes. If independence and outside support felt like a weak spot in your results, that's a specific, workable thing to strengthen.
What to Do With a Lower Score
A lower score in any area is information, not a verdict on your relationship or your partner. Relationships change over time, seasons of stress, a new baby, a health scare, or simply drifting into routine can lower connection in one area without meaning the relationship is doomed. The bands below each come with two specific practices tied to the areas that scored lowest for you, because naming a gap is only useful if it comes with something to actually do about it. If you want a broader satisfaction read alongside this one, our Relationship Satisfaction Test is a natural pairing, and our Attachment Style Test can add context if a particular area feels like a longstanding pattern rather than a recent dip.
If, instead, this quiz brought up real concerns about disrespect, control, or safety rather than just gaps to work on, our Toxic Relationship Test looks at that more directly.
Methodology & sources
The 24 items on this test were written for Psychology.com and are not drawn from a published clinical instrument or any Gottman-branded assessment. They're informed by research on the Sound Relationship House and repair attempts (Gottman & Silver, 1999; Gottman & Levenson, 1992) and by Sue Johnson's work on Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment in adult relationships (Johnson, 2008). They cover four areas: trust and respect, communication and repair, independence and support, and affection and fun. Each item is rated from 0 (never) to 4 (almost always), and because every item is worded as a positive strength, a higher total reflects a healthier pattern across the areas measured, the opposite direction from most of our other relationship screeners.
This is a house-made educational tool, and the four-area grouping is our own framework built around the research cited above, not a reproduction of any validated relationship-satisfaction instrument. It's designed to highlight strengths and specific, workable practices, not to grade your relationship or your partner. No single quiz can capture a real relationship's full history and context.
References
- Gottman JM, Silver N. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Harmony Books; 1999.
- Gottman JM, Levenson RW. Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: behavior, physiology, and health. J Pers Soc Psychol. 1992;63(2):221-233.
- Johnson SM. Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. New York: Little, Brown Spark; 2008.
- Johnson SM. The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection. 2nd ed. New York: Brunner-Routledge; 2004.
Cite this source
Psychology.com. (2026, September 23). Healthy Relationship Quiz. Psychology.com. https://psychology.com/tests/healthy-relationship
Healthy Relationship Quiz FAQ
Is this quiz based on the real Gottman relationship quiz?
No. It's an original set of items written for Psychology.com, informed by published research from John Gottman and Sue Johnson, but it does not reproduce any Gottman-branded or otherwise copyrighted assessment. We cite the research it draws on in the methodology and references above.
What counts as a good score?
There's no pass-or-fail cutoff. The four area scores are meant to show you where your relationship's strengths are and where there's room to grow, not to grade the relationship overall. Most relationships, even happy long-term ones, are stronger in some areas than others.
My score was low. Does that mean I should break up?
No. A lower score points to specific areas worth working on, not a verdict on the relationship's future. Many relationships strengthen a specific area, like communication or independence, with intentional practice or couples counseling.
Why does a higher score mean healthier here, when your other tests work the opposite way?
Most of our relationship screeners look for concerning patterns, where a higher score means more concern. This quiz flips that on purpose: every item describes a strength, so a higher score reflects more of what research links to a thriving relationship.
Can I take this quiz if I'm not currently in a relationship?
You can answer about your most recent relationship to reflect on patterns you'd want to carry forward or change next time. The results will be most useful, though, if you're thinking about a specific relationship, past or present.
Is the test really confidential?
Yes. The test runs and is scored in your browser, and your individual answers are never sent to us. We count completions anonymously, and if you request the free PDF or a report we receive your summary scores with the email you give us, never your answers. No account is needed.
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