Does He Like Me? Quiz: Score the Signals From One Specific Person

You answer twenty statements about one specific person, rating how often each behavior happens from never (0) to almost always (4). The total runs from 0 to 80 and falls into one of three bands: few clear signals, mixed signals, or strong signals. Underneath the total, the breakdown shows three groups: attention (seven items, scored to 28), effort (seven items, to 28) and openness (six items, to 24). The grouping is our own; it is an educational way to organize the signals, not a validated subscale structure.

The three groups are worth reading separately because they often disagree. High attention with low effort is the classic pattern of someone who enjoys your company and has not decided to pursue anything, or who is shy, or who is already attached. High effort with low openness can be a person who is genuinely helpful to everyone. Strong openness with the other two low sometimes means you have become a confidant rather than a prospect. The total tells you how much signal there is; the breakdown tells you what kind.

The bands are educational thirds, not thresholds from research, and the quiz cannot know how this person behaves with other people, which is the comparison that matters most. A person who messages everyone first is not sending you a signal by messaging you first. As you answer, try to rate each behavior relative to how they treat other people in their life, not in absolute terms.

The research is unusually clear on this. In a large meta-analysis of attraction studies, Montoya and colleagues (2018) found that only a small set of behaviors reliably track whether someone likes another person: eye contact, smiling, initiating conversation, laughing together, sitting or standing close, and mimicking the other person's behavior. Those are the kinds of things this quiz asks about. The same review found that many of the signals popular advice treats as decisive are not reliable at all. So the items here lean toward the behaviors with evidence behind them and away from folklore.

The research is also clear that people are not very good at reading romantic interest, including their own prospects. In speed-dating studies, observers watching ten-second clips could judge men's interest above chance but women's interest barely at all (Place et al., 2009), and in conversations between strangers, people detected flirting far less accurately than they detected its absence (Hall, Xing and Brooks, 2015). Translated: a strong set of signals is real information, a weak set of signals is also real information, and a mixed set is genuinely ambiguous rather than a code you have failed to crack.

What no quiz can tell you is what this person feels, whether they are available, whether they would say yes, or whether their behavior means the same thing from them as it would from you. People also suppress their own warmth when they are unsure how it will land, which means someone can like you and look, on this quiz, like they do not. This page scores evidence. The person remains the only authority on what they feel, and asking them is the only way to find out.

A lot of people take a does-he-like-me quiz when the more pressing question is on their own side. If you are not sure whether what you feel is a crush, friendly fondness, or something you have talked yourself into, Do I Have a Crush? Quiz scores your own thoughts, feelings and behavior toward this person. If the feeling is already strong, Am I in Love? Quiz looks at whether it has the shape of love, and Limerence Test covers the intense, intrusive, reciprocity-hungry form of infatuation that can make every neutral signal feel like a sign.

It is worth being honest with yourself about why you are counting signals. Collecting evidence instead of asking is often an attachment pattern rather than a strategy: Attachment Style Quiz can show whether an anxious pattern is turning this into a vigilance project, and Am I Ready for a Relationship? Quiz asks whether you are in a place to start something at all, whoever this person turns out to be. None of that makes the question less valid. It just means the answer you most need might not be about them.

If the signals are strong, the lowest-risk move is a small, concrete invitation that costs nothing to turn down: coffee, a walk, a thing you both mentioned wanting to do. Phrase it so a no is painless for both of you. A yes from someone who has been sending strong signals is likely, and a no tells you something the quiz could not. If the signals are mixed, you can still ask, or you can shift one behavior yourself, initiating a little more or opening up a little more, and watch whether they match it. Reciprocity is the clearest signal of all and it is the one you can test directly.

If the signals are few, believe them. That is hard advice, and it is the advice that saves people months. Few signals do not mean you are unattractive or that you did something wrong; they mean this particular person, right now, is not showing the behavior that interest produces. You are allowed to ask anyway, once, plainly. If the answer is no, or the answer is silence, let the evidence close the question and put your attention somewhere it is wanted.

If this person is a colleague, a friend's partner, your manager, or anyone where a wrong read has consequences, give the context more weight than the score. And if you notice that reading one person's signals has taken over your thoughts, sleep or self-worth, that is a reason to talk to someone, not a reason to take the quiz again.